Dating Violence Warning Signs
You’ve probably heard lots of stories in the media about domestic violence, however, you might not have heard about relatively widespread dating violence among young people. Dating violence includes physical violence, such as hitting or punching, emotional violence, such as verbal abuse or threats, as well as any forced sexual activity or rape. The questions below will help you determine if you are in an unhealthy relationship. If you answer yes to any of these questions, please contact the resources below for help.
ARE YOU GOING OUT WITH SOMEONE WHO...
- Is jealous or possessive? Gets too serious about your relationship way too fast? Messes with your friendships? Follows you around and checks up on you? Won't accept your break-up?
- Tries to control you? Orders you around and ignores what you want? Doesn't take you seriously when you object?
- Scares you? Makes you worry about how he/she will react to things you say or do? Threatens you?
- Is violent? Uses weapons? Has a history of fighting? Loses his/her temper easily? Brags about being violent?
- Pressures you for sex? Is scary when it comes to sex? Treats you only like a sex object?
- Abuses drugs or alcohol? Pressures you to use drugs or alcohol?
- Blames you for his/her behavior? Says that you provoked him/her? Says it’s your fault?
- Has had other bad relationships? Blames others for the problems in those relationships?
- Believes that you should take what he/she hands out? Believes you should be submissive?
- Your friends and family think is dangerous?
IF ANY OF THIS SOUNDS FAMILIAR … YOU ARE NOT ALONE! THERE IS HELP!
To find help, visit the South Carolina Coalition against Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault at http://www.sccadvasa.org or call 1-800-799-SAFE. To find a local shelter visit http://www.sccadvasa.org/members.aspx or call 1-800-260-9293 or 803-256-2900.
Click here for more resources for survivors of sexual assault.